A man just walked past me and said “excuse me, but you look very nice tonight darlin” I said thank you and he said you’re welcome and walked off. And that is how you compliment a woman without harassing them
No, that is still unsolicited, and thus, harassment. No amount of “darlins” is gonna make me not want to punch your ass for coming on to me without provocation.
UR SO STUPID
You know what, no. Harassment counts as unwarranted attention, no matter what. That’s what makes it so subjective, and why it’s such a hot button topic. But everyone gets a say, and NO ONE’S verdict should be the cause of ridicule.
Look at what happened here. OP went through an encounter with some stranger who figured that the only thing he could contribute to an encounter was a comment about physical appearance. Now, admittedly, the encounter was one of the nicest instances of unrequested flattery I’ve seen, which elicited a very nice “thank you” and a courtly dismount. Bravo, you two human beings, you managed to navigate a social collision well. We’re not going to talk about this interaction, though. We’re not going to discuss whether or not the guy’s comment was harassment, we’re not going to rate his level of douchebaggery, and we’re not going to talk about how guys should compliment girls in public, IF at all.
What we are going to talk about is the fact that someone else posted an opinion saying that if she were ever complimented that way she would take it as an offense and reserve the right to punch the infractor’s butt. A worthy response, and a personal choice. And what is she met with?
She’s called stupid and gets linked with a comic making her look crazy.
IMMEDIATELY, when your own viewpoints aren’t agreed with, AS SOON as you have been made aware that maybe a different human being looks at a situation a different way, you whip out your hate seed and sow. It doesn’t even occur to you that maybe “darlin” isn’t actually a cute phrase to some people, or maybe some people have had a bad experience with unwarranted attention. Perhaps the street talking has been so bad for some people that all they want is someone to walk up to them and ask them about what books they’re reading, or if they saw the last GoT episode, instead of immediately resorting to calling out their appearance as if they were dressed specifically to attract attention. MAYBE they’re fucking spies who are triggered by the word “darlin” and go mad on a butt punching spree when they’re unlocked! YOU DON’T KNOW. But for whatever reason, a man walking by and saying that she’s pretty is a threatening situation for someone, and you chose to sigh heavily in their goddamn ear and call them an idiot for feeling a thing that you don’t.
Welcome to being the God Damned Problem.